I did not need to describe to him my tortures. He knows only too well what goes on in the prisons of the Roof of the World. Without asking me any questions, he hugged me silently. Then he simply said, “Three months of prison and torture. It’s a terrible ordeal! But for others, it lasts 10 years, 20 years! It kills some!”
I understood then how important it is to put our sufferings into perspective, to not lock oneself in a painful past that indefinitely extends the ordeal. When that happens, we become our own torturer.
– lama Phakyab Rinpoche