About effort and identity

Other than it is tiring, many people are also afraid of putting in effort because:

“I gave it my all and it wasn’t good enough.”

They fear trying because they fear failure. They fear their identity would be tainted with failure. Or even, failure becomes their identity.

About pride

Take pride in your work.
Pride is a deadly sin.

Which saying should we heed?

Pride can help drive us.
But it becomes deadly when it breeds superiority.
And it becomes a burden when this superiority breeds entitlement.

What is the downfall of Lucifer?
Not really pride. But the superiority and entitlement that his pride breeds.

Living place

Our body live in the physical world.
Our consciousness live in the mental world.

The mind tries to create a representation of the physical world mentally.
But every now and then, it gets confused and produces mental worlds that are divorced from reality.
And sometimes we find ourselves stuck in bad places which are actually of our own creation.
Once we cease thinking and focus on the present, things suddenly appear much better.

Nirvana

Is extinguishment.

What are the main fires we want to extinguish?
Aversion, craving and clinging.

These three are the main causes of our restless misery.
Just tune in to the intentions of our mind. Question our motivations.
Often we come down to these three fires.

The next time you suffer, ask yourself why. Penetrate as deeply as possible. Are the fires burning in there?

We want

We want to follow; we want freedom
We want certainty; we want surprise
We want comfort; we want an adventure
We want safety; we want to be alive

We know what we don’t want
We don’t know what we want

We want and we can’t stop wanting
This is the inherent unsatisfactoriness of life
Buddhists call this dukkha.

Dissatisfaction

Our happiness depends less on objective conditions and more on our own expectations.
Expectations, however, tend to adapt to conditions.
When things improve, expectations rise, and consequently even dramatic improvements in conditions might leave us as dissatisfied as before.

– quoting the article “Were we happier in the Stone Age?” By Yuval Noah Harari